Stop! Don't move!

I've been gifted with a couple days to spend with a friend.

It's amazing how being away from your normal environment

can make things feel more clear.

I have never been very good at making sure that

I am balanced with healing, working, cleaning, and relationships.
That is why I am such a planner.
Plus I need to plan things into my life to look forward to.

Opening my eyes this morning was a pleasure.
There was no where to go and nothing to do...
A sentence I often have used with my hypnosis clients. 
The reality for someone like me is that I
do need quiet solitude to get my thoughts
together and to claim the center of myself.

Always being in action and "doing" something is not
a completely healthy way to be for me.
Some people can not function in silence and stillness,
they just have to move and have to be doing something.

That is not the kind of girl I am.
For me to be healthy I need ample recharge time.

I spent 30 minutes this morning doing my self Reiki in utter silence.
I love that my heart center opened up wide and
just drank in the energy.
I also know that my friends will have breakfast ready at some point
and coffee that will taste spectacular.
The incredible thing about being able
to have time in a quiet space like this is how much insight
it gives me into my friends and their relationship with
eachother and with me.


It also gives me space around my head.
I know that sounds silly but empathic people have a habit
of hearing the thoughts and feelings of those closest
to them. 
So the actual air feels loud. 
It can also feel thick.
And it can feel confusing because the mistake can be made
that everything we feel is our own feeling.

So going away is like a re-boot to the system.
It puts things in perspective and
I get to hang out with some pretty incredible people.

I guess this is my way of saying
hey everyone slow down.
When you have a chance, stop creating things
to keep you busy.
Stop moving so much and be quiet.
Be slow and be deliberate.

Recently there was a murder of someone that
was a part of the Qi Gong foundation that I love
so much.  Someone put together a tribute video to her
life.
Every photo was a reminder of her vibrance and her
dedication to her family and the people she worked with.
She really was beautiful inside and out.
Her life was taken at the tender age of 34.
The point is...
Stopping to smell the roses and enjoy them is
the only way to really get something out of my life.
Time to purposely plan some rest breaks in my life.
If I dont take care of me that way
I probably wont be much fun to be around!

When a heart breaks and lessons are learned

 It is always interesting to me the way we learn things in life.  Some of the most powerful messages are the ones that hurt so terribly.

This is Jada, I was very happy to rescue her.  She had an incredibly sweet energy about her and my hopes were to bring that energy out in her through PTSD training.  While she resided here with us I learned some things about myself that I didn't really know.

I prefer Pit bulls to all other breeds.  

They are survivors.

They have a gameness about them that most people mistakenly think is aggression.

Gameness is just a term for a self confident dog.

Because of my fibromyalgia a pit is a good choice for me, they need exercise and they are sturdy so if If I fell I knew I wouldn't break her.  

Also larger dogs can help people get up from falls if they happen and 

give a feeling of safety that I didn't know I was missing until working with her.

The energy and need for exercise helped to get me up and moving each day, it was like having a partner that didn't judge the pain or the slow motion or slow brain,

just a patient partner meeting me wherever I was whatever day it was.

Jada had energy but she also was a bit on the lazy side. 

She liked to play and she liked to cuddle, 

and she loved playing with other dogs.

It was amazing to watch her joy in using her body and she tussled and ran with other dogs in the dog park.

It was incredibly satisfying to work with her and watch her win again and again

as she started to let go of her fear of noises, brooms, and hands being raised over her head,

yup she is a survivor!

The thing I loved about Jada was her incredible awareness of energy.

Dogs understand energy.

People make the mistake of treating dogs like humans,

dogs don't think like humans so most accidents with dogs are 

human error, which is sad; yet even sadder in a breed like a pit because then the breed is blamed

and they are tagged as dangerous dogs when really they are operating

from the mentality of dog thinking which is pack mentality.

My nephew and I recently had a small chat on facebook regarding 

Breed specific legislation. 

Being a Reiki practitioner in the state of Florida

Reiki is governed under the massage board.

This happened due to people mismanaging and abusing the term Reiki, so to

protect the mass public it became a regulated modality.

Some people agree with this and some people don't.

I understand why it happened.

People were hurt.

BSL for American Pit Bulls

is a hard topic for pit bull lovers.

No one wants to be told that their beloved animal is not welcome in their city and or state.

Yet no one wants these animals victim to the dog fighting

rings of unscrupulous people either.

Its a sore topic.

What I do know is that people that do not understand gameness, pack energy, and that are lazy dog owners should never ever think to own a pit bull.

Pits require responsible, active, loving, and breed specific understanding owners.

The ingredients then for a terrible accident happened when I was out of town.

Jada had been spayed 4 days prior so her hormones were out of control.

I had lined up a behaviorist to come in and view the behaviors of the other two dogs

with Jada because I was witnessing some unbalanced behavior in all three dogs that was really starting to surface when I started her training and the training of the other two as I was working with her.

The first human error was absolutely that I left her at the house

instead of taking her with me.

My gut wanted her to go visiting my friend with me,

but due to their dogs I didn't want her to hurt her operation site, they would have played hard.

I thought I was protecting her.

Tragedy struck late that night when indeed one of the behaviors

I was concerned about caused Jada to "protect" her space.

Another dog was hurt badly and in all honesty is lucky to be alive.

There were many things that went into the perfect recipe for disaster and it

still makes me sick to think about it.

The reality is that this was a tragic accident, but I had to return 

Jada to the rescue that I got her from.

I almost couldn't do it,

I had become so attached to her.

The reality is that Jada isn't to blame any more than the hurt dog.

When humans make decisions sometimes those decisions just aren't the right ones.

We can't Blame the dogs, or the breeds, nor can we blame eachother for a terrible accident.

The hardest part is that the behaviorist was coming only 4 days later,

just 4 little days.

Tragedy.

My point in sharing this is that I learned that

I absolutely function far better with a doggy friend that is of the larger

variety.  Whether that is because they are able to hold more energy

or because of my past of being abused I am not sure.

I believe in fate and I believe that everything

happens for a reason.

I know for a fact that Jada is not dangerous, if she was both smaller dogs here would

have been attacked.

I have really done the work to release the sadness here, sometimes it

grips my heart and I think I wont breathe again,

but all in all I am ok.

When the time comes again for me to venture into the world of canine companion the behaviorist will be inline first, I will be working with a female and a puppy

from the beginning to be sure that everyone in the family is on the same page.

All dogs same rules is pack mentality,

humans have to understand that for harmony.

Dogs don't see size.

They see energy.

They look for balance.

In a pack a sick dog will be killed because it is out of balance,

there is no remorse, its done for the good of the pack.

If a dog is anxious, nippy, or nervous a pack will

correct it, if it can not correct it, they will kill it.

That is how dogs see the world.

Balance or lack of balance.

We humans need to remember that so that all of our dogs

in every city and state and park can be together

in peace and fun.

That is how energy works.

Our dogs are our mirrors.

When we understand that we can come a long way in dealing with our own

issues.

Let's Chat... to Reiki or not to Reiki???

 So Let's chat.

Did you know I once had a student for Reiki that

was not going to take the class

that her heart yearned for because her

employer didn't believe in it?

 I also have had multiple students bow out of classes

due to lack of partner and family 

belief and participation.

I have even had students that left their partner for

being closed minded about Reiki once a class was taken.

 Take a look at these photos.

That's my fiance!!

This was a moment that made me love her oodles,

do you want to know why?

She was doing her own brand of Qi Gong.

Not because she is trained, not because she is interested in it

(although she may be)

but because she has a pretty awesome sense of humor.

You see I don't require my partner to believe in

the things that I believe in.

My practice, belief, or dedication to anything is my business

it's not hers.

Love is patient and love is kind.

Love does not give ultimatums and fight over space.

Love is simply love,

IF 

you find yourself requiring your partner to like what you like, 

to do things your way,

to understand what you find important,

to think like you,

to act like you,

oooooops you need to clone yourself.

Who wants to be with someone that has all the same interests?

Who wants to be with a robot?

Who wants to live that kind of boring,

hum drum,

dull existence?

 If Reiki gets it up for you, take the class.

If your partner forbids it... darlings that isn't about Reiki that is about your

relationship.

If your partner does not understand what Reiki is,

why you are so into it,

or why on Earth you would waste your time...

smile sweetly and say gosh I just love it when you support my interests.

And at some point simply ask them if they would like to know more.

Sometimes people poke fun at things they do not

understand and are too embarrassed to ask about.

 Sadly some people still believe that asking questions means the same thing as being

dumb or stupid.  People do have Egos, good, bad, or indifferent

you will most likely meet the ego in the people that you feel

judge you.

You can take the bait and let your baggage talk to their baggage or

you can take the higher road and support yourself

by only talking to people that support your decisions in the beginning.

Remember you didn't choose your partner through the eyes of Reiki 

if you had, they would be with you on the Reiki train.

Requiring your partner to get on a new train that 

you want to ride is not only selfish,

it is pretty single-minded. It's like your partner signing you up to jump out of an 

airplane because they think it would be fun.

NOT!!!

 Sit down and feel this out folks.

would you want your partner to sign you up for 

boot camp fitness just because they think it is good for you?

AND

That they require you to go on the days of the weeks and times of the day

they deem appropriate?

Just imagine the things your partner may be thinking about your sudden interest in

something that doesn't seem to even be real or have any importance.

Just imagine what it would be like for a very grounded and scientifically minded individual to 

watch their lover holding their hands quietly over

someones body... possibly with their eyes closed.

It might be laughable! 

Heck I might even laugh at that.

 The next time that you get the bright idea to 

"do" Reiki in your home

or on your spouse to change the energy...

be aware they probably feel like everything is just fine.

They probably feel they are happy the way they are.

No one likes forced change.

AND 

My dears if you are focussing on your Partner because you think Reiki will

change your relationship...

OH YEAH Reiki will change your relationship;

you may encounter more distance, grumbling, and flat out disgust

about the things you are doing, the things you are

thinking about your partner and the space you share,

that creates war not peace.

You can not force Reiki or any belief on anyone for their own good or not!

Reiki is not the set for the boxing ring where you go to face off against your partner.

It's not about fight,

control,

blame,

or rigidity.

If your partner does not want to participate so what,

not everyone likes yard work, knitting, running, swimming,

dogs, cats, birds, or snakes.  

Not everyone cares about

becoming more healthy, thinking differently, or healing the world.

Seriously folks, thank goodness for that!

I can be good at what I do.

I'm a great Reiki facilitator for those that think it is important.

I am a pretty dang good cook and I am awesome at 

running a house hold, getting people fed, and teaching boundaries.

I'm great at loving people, decent at writing.

I have a great time teaching and doing Reiki.

I love learning and am passionate about my spirituality.

I adore my partner and doing things she likes gives me a great deal of happiness.

I also happen to be decent at reading energy, helping people find patterns that make them unhappy and unhealthy, and sometimes I can talk to the dead.

Does that mean my partner gets it?

Does it mean she is on board?

Does it mean we hold freaky deaky seances nightly?

No you guys, it doesn't.

We do laundry and housework, we watch movies and make dinner,

we clean, we walk dogs, we love eachother.

We even don't always understand eachother. 

Reality is that is about as normal as it gets and she knows if she

ever wants to really know about anything I do she can ask.

And if not that is ok too.

Give yourselves and your relationships a break.

Go ahead and love Reiki if you want to and let your family and partner love what they love.

Choose freedom and love every time!